Why do people cheat on their partners? Well, it's not because your partner is a raging sex maniac and it's not because they are incapable of staying loyal. The truth is, it has something to do with YOU as their partner. Sorry, but if your partner has cheated on you, the first question you MUST ask them is, "What did I not give you that you needed"?
Now when you read that statement, you are probably going to get pissed off and say that I am nuts. I am very sorry to tell you but , it's the truth. If your partner is cheating or has cheated on you, 99% of the time, it's going to be YOUR fault.
It takes courage I know to ask this question. It means that you are going to be told something about yourself that you probably don't want to hear, but if you love your partner and you can take your Ego out of it, your partner will tell you why.
You know what they say, "The truth hurts", but it also can be exactly what you need to hear to fix it!
Just because your partner has cheated on you, doesn't mean your relationship is over!!
Men mostly cheat because they need more emotional support from their partners, but they also want great sex.
Women cheat because they also need more emotional support and though they don't focus as much on the sex part as men, sex is becoming more important to women as they become more sexually assertive and comfortable with sex.
So, what can we do to make your partner happy so they don't want to run to the first bar stool in town and find support and great sex?
Ask what they need. Listen to what they are saying. Own your part in it and then make the necessary changes. If your husband wants you to be sexier then dammit woman, get sexier!! Have more fun in the bedroom and make him feel that he turns you on still and he is your man!
Men, if your woman says she needs more support and understanding then sit down and learn to listen to her when she's having a rough day. Ask her how you can help her or what she needs and then freakin' do it!!
Look, at the end of the day, if you love each other, don't you WANT to make each other happy? Your efforts and those little things you used to do can make your relationship great again so that you are BOTH happy!
Communication is super important. So is trust and being able to forgive and apologize. The worst thing about infidelity is the way it's handled. So don't be a jerk about it. Ask, understand and change what needs to be changed. Believe me, you can get past it and cheating can actually make your relationship stronger!!